Hi. How are YOU today?
Standard answer to this is Fine thanks. Because its easier than saying actually I’m not too great today and I could really use someone to talk to. Whether this stock answer is because of embarrassment, fear of judgment, or the typical British Stiff Upper Lip, we all need to be able to talk about our mental health more.
1 in 4 people will suffer from some kind of mental health problem! So that could be one person in every family or in every group of friends there could be at least a couple of people going through this on their own without you even knowing. Or maybe it is you (and if it is you then this is ok, I hope that this email will spur you onto talk to someone/anyone about how you are feeling)
I have started to realise that with the coaching that I am doing, it REALLY is not just about the food and weight. It has become all about mindset and behaviours, self limiting beliefs and motivation to change.
When we start to focus on our physical health it can have a massive knock on effect on your mental health too and vice versa of course. In fact we need to, as much as possible, work on all components of health, Nutrition, Fitness, Mental Health, Financial Health, Emotional Health and Intellectual Health (which is easier said than done, I know).
The ladies in my online wellness groups have always been very open about their struggles with stress and anxiety in the past and a couple have very bravely said that I could share their stories with you.
This is what one of my lovely ladies wrote in the group when I asked them the question WHY are you doing this?
I am 61 and for as long as I can remember I have been plagued with Self Limiting Beliefs, I walked out on a job because I didn’t feel I did it well enough. I have been on antidepressants for years, have had Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Confidence Building etc. my remedy was to drink more alcohol than I should and basically almost become a recluse, because I thought no one liked me. In October I went to the doctor and couldn’t speak and got very emotional. He asked what hobbies I had and I didn’t do anything, and he really delved into my lifestyle, but instead of increasing my medication he suggested I started to do things for myself. That was the turning point, I had always wanted to learn to swim, but doubted my ability, but I pushed myself to enrol in a course of lessons and I love it. I had already been looking at the Autumn Elevate but didn’t go ahead. So I decided to join in January. This is the best decision I have ever made, thanks to Claire and you lovely ladies I see a difference in my personality, so has my husband, I have reduced my medication (agreed with the doctor) rarely drink alcohol and generally feel great. I have never been this honest about myself before but those 4 questions have answered as to my motivation as to achieve my goals. It is definitely for ME, thank you Claire and everyone in this wonderful group. Xx
Here is another brave and honest post from another beautiful lady in my group
Cutting a very long story short i lost my lovely husband to cancer 10 years ago and coped very well considering or So I thought ! I then had a very horrible realisation that a close friend was not who I thought they were – if you’ve ever watched Catfish you’ll get the idea and was conned emotionally and financially – this resulted in a very horrible period of anxiety – I gave up my business and stayed at home for almost 6 months – couldn’t go to Drs on my own etc and shopping was a real ordeal. There were days I was convinced my anxiety attacks were heart attacks but CBT and some very good friends helped and I have slowly come out the other side! I have so much positivity in my life now and my wedding in September! I can honestly say that as well as feeling so much healthier my mindset has improved so so much and there are days now where I have NO negative thoughts and this is all since joining Elevate – going back to My Wellness Toolbox too this has reminded me how much Reiki helped me and I’m lucky to have a friend who is a Reiki master! So I will be booking some sessions with her to try and help with my menopausal symptoms! Sorry for the long ramble but feeling so good I wanted to share – also something new for me I don’t usually ‘talk’! Have a great weekend ladies we are all amazing
Thank you ladies for sharing these posts.
If you are struggling please pick up the phone and talk to someone YOU ARE NOT ALONE
be kind to yourself